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Starting a Bright Lights Group
Bright Lights Conferences
Bright Lights Groups
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Starting a Bright Lights Group
If you would like to start a Bright Lights group, we suggest that you attend a Leaders Training conference or purchase the Leaders Training Kit.
— How to Start a Bright Lights Group
The goal of the Bright Lights ministry is to train and equip mothers and young ladies to disciple younger girls. One of the ways we encourage them to do this is by starting small discipleship groups. There is now a network of about 650 “official” Bright Lights groups that have started across the country.
We suggest that a girl should be at least 15 years old to lead a group.
Yes, there are quite a few groups led by mothers and we have been getting very encouraging reports from them.
Sarah started her group for girls age 10-13. We believe this age to be extremely important. Once a girl begins coming to our Bright Lights group, she is welcome to stay as long as she would like. Presently, our group has young ladies in their twenties still attending. The older ones assist as leaders and examples, and the material presented is applicable to the older girls as well as to the younger ones.
Obviously it varies for each group, but meeting twice a month is what has worked the best for us. In most cases, it seems like meeting every week gets to be too much—especially for the leader, but also for the girls. It’s easy to get burned out if you have to plan a meeting every single week. Once a month, on the other hand, doesn’t seem quite often enough. With so much time passing between each meeting, it’s harder to keep the momentum going and it’s harder for the girls to remember what they talked about in previous lessons.
Our meetings are 2 ½ hours long, but most groups meet for a little less time (such as 2 hrs). You might want to start with a 1 ½ or 2 hour meeting, and then increase the length of your meetings if you decide that you need more time.
Yes, we do have a brochure that shares some general information about what Bright Lights is, how it started, and the vision and purpose of this ministry. Let us know if you would like us to e-mail you a PDF of this brochure. To advertise your group, you can just include a little insert with your own information, or you can get ideas from this brochure and make your own.
When Sarah started her group, she made some brochures and sent them out to Christian girls she knew. She wrote a note to some of their parents explaining the purpose of the group and asking if they would be interested in their daughters participating. By doing this, we were able to start out with a core of serious Christian girls who genuinely wanted to learn. They were not necessarily all girls with strong convictions or from strong families, but the majority of them were serious about their walk with the Lord and desiring to grow. This is what we recommend—starting with a core group of serious believers. But we do encourage you to keep your group open to anyone the Lord brings. Soon the girls in our group began to invite their friends. Eventually, even a few unbelievers began to attend. Yet, because of the “core group” of original girls, the atmosphere remained one of strong, godly fellowship and peer pressure. The new girls were “pulled up”—rather than the others being “pulled down.” In our group, we pray that the Lord would bring the girls He wants to be there. So when someone new comes, we assume that God brought her for a particular reason.
Not every group will be able to start as ours did with positive peer pressure from influences within the group. If you do not know of any godly girls to invite, do not let this keep you from beginning a group. It may be that you will be the only positive influence in the group – or at least it may start out that way.
You can still start a Bright Lights group, but it will be a much different group with a different focus. The purpose will first of all be evangelism—then discipleship. We suggest that you still use the Bright Lights booklets, but that you supplement it with a lot of basic Bible teaching (Bible stories, learning the books of the Bible, memorization, basic doctrine, etc.) and that you include the gospel in some way in every meeting.
Seek to continually maintain a spiritual emphasis. It’s nice to have humor, activities, and fellowship, but do not let yourself lose focus. If you keep the spiritual teaching primary, it will attract the girls who are seeking the Lord and not interest the ones who are not. We have found that the girls who have no interest in spiritual things soon drop out of the group. This is okay. Bright Lights isn’t meant for them. Also, encourage the ones who are doing well, and help them to see the importance of their example. Give them specific ideas about how they can influence the other girls to do right.
We would encourage you to try to become an “official” Bright Lights group if you are able. The reason for the pastor’s signature is because we want to encourage people to have a working relationship with their church and also so that we can have a character reference. But if you’re hesitant to approach your pastor at this time, it would be fine to have a character reference from an elder in your church or a godly friend to whom you are accountable. Usually pastors seem to be happy to give a character reference. Your pastor doesn’t need to think of it as a “ministry of the church” necessarily, but just that you feel called to disciple younger girls. All Christians are called to make disciples. If the pastor sees it as something “in addition” to church functions and not in competition with them, hopefully he’ll be excited about it. Also, it is extremely beneficial to have your church family committed to praying for this ministry.
Bright Lights Conferences
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E-mail us firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll send you more information about what’s involved with hosting a conference.
The Strong in the Lord Conference is for mothers and daughters ages 8-14. It is designed to challenge girls to seek the Lord with all their hearts and use the years of their youth for Him. It covers topics such as Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends, Giving Your Heart to Your Parents, Keeping Yourself Pure from Polluting Influences, and Developing a Disciplined Walk With God.
Bright Lights Groups
This map shows the locations of all the Bright Lights groups that have started. If you find a group in your area, email us at email@example.com and give us the city and group number of the group closest to you. Then we will email you with the contact info for the leader.
Yes! The Bright Lights material is designed to be used either in a group or as a one-on-one discipleship curriculum. If there is no group in your area and you do not feel like you are able to lead one yourself at this time, we recommend that you use the Bright Lights program as a discipleship curriculum with your daughter.
There is a supplement CD included with every set. This contains stories and testimonies to go along with each lesson. The CDs help girls get a better grasp of the truth presented because they not only read the lesson, but are able to hear testimonies that reinforce it. Listening to the CD makes young ladies feel more like they are a part of the ministry and gives them a better taste of the vision and spirit of Bright Lights. It is also especially powerful for girls to hear other young ladies sharing their desire to be strong in the Lord as well as their struggles in their own Christian walk.
Right now there are eight sets in print. For more information about the lessons that are included in each set please Click Here
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